Making A Decision

A few weeks ago, I woke up on a Saturday morning just wanting to do something other than sitting in the coffee shop on the computer catching up on work. I laid in bed thinking what would a perfect Saturday look like for me. As I pondered on it, I thought about the beach but needed to call on someone who would want to join me in my spontaneity and immediately,  two of my good girlfriends popped up in my head. One couldn’t make it but the other was free. So off to the beach we went!! Now, this is a Saturday during the summertime where everyone and their momma seems to have the same exact thought like me so traffic was crazy and it took us longer than usual to get there but never the less, we made it. When we arrived, I had a simple thought like, “what if we would’ve decided to turn around just because it’d have taken us longer to get here.” #1 I would’ve felt as if we did all this preparing to go for nothing and #2 I would’ve been sad because still, we did all this preparing for nothing…just to turn around and go back home. (thankfully, that didn’t happen) Which makes me think about life in general and how you’re always one decision away from a better life.

Often times, we hold ourselves back from doing what’s needed in order for us to get to the next level for many different reasons: such as fear and uncertainty just to name a few. It’s important for us to just decide and act upon our decisions. For some, it may be going back to school, starting a blog, saving money or working out whatever that looks like for you, we must decide that we want better and then move into that direction. However, it’s always easier said than done because it takes work and the work doesn’t always mean hard work, sometimes, it’s just consistency simply being consistent with putting in work towards your dreams. Therefore, having direction and clear goals written down, along with action steps, makes accomplishing our goals easier to achieve.

I am at a stage in my life where I am focused on some bigger goals and it seems as if I’m being distracted by all kinds of small things. Lately, I’ve been praying on my focus because the enemy has a way of using things and people to get in the way of what you’re called to do. Thankfully, I am a wise woman and I know what a distraction looks like so I’ll continue to make the decision to stay focused on my goals. No distraction formed against me shall prosper, lol!

 

 

Good Mood Playlist

Music is a form of therapy. It’s healing and it can instantly change your mood. It can make you feel emotional depending on the song and where you are in your life at the time, it can also make you not feel anything at all.

I want to share my “GOOD MOOD” playlist with you. These are the songs I play that instantly puts me in a happier mood. It doesn’t matter the time of day or how I am feeling, I’d listen to either one of these songs and become happier. Hope you enjoy my playlist and let me know if you plan to add any to your playlist.

A Dream Car, Come True!

This past Saturday, I brought my mom her dream car. This has been something I’ve always said I’ll do and finally, I DID IT. My mom LOVES Volkswagen Beetles and to finally be in the position to bless her with her dream car was a dream come true for me as well. I say it was a dream come true for me because I wasn’t always in the position to bless her with a car, let along her dream car. We would see this car often while out together and one of us would point it out and say something positive about it. She would say, “Oh look at my car. I just love it” and I’d say something like “I’m going to get that car for you momma. It looks just like you.” In addition to seeing it so many times and me coming to the realization that we both need a car, not just me, I decided to get it for her.

Being able to put smiles on my loved ones faces by blessing them makes me SO happy. This is what it’s about for me. I truly believe that we are blessed to be a blessing to others.

I would also like to point out an important part of this post and it’s simply saying, don’t give up on things that seem to be too big at the moment. Any and everything that you dream to be possible for yourself can become your reality. As cliché as it may sound, it’s definitely possible. BUT what it will take is work along with mindset shifting. I could say this to you all day but if you aren’t working towards it and if you feel as if it’s not possible for you, well it won’t be, simple as that.

The funniest part was getting her to drive her dream car off the lot. It’s a push to start, has Bluetooth, heated seats, a sunroof etc. and I believe all of that intimidated her at first but now, she’s comfortable and driving it around looking cute! Sidenote: My dad use to always drive her around that’s what she meant in the video when she said, “you know your dad wouldn’t want that” LOL!

 

What you can do to start doing the work on believing:

  1. Start by getting crystal clear on what you want.
  2. Write it down.
  3. Put money to the side if what you want will cost money.
  4. Speak positively about it. Imagine yourself with it.
  5. And lastly, you have to WORK. Nothing drops out of the sky for anyone.

 

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Perception vs Reality

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    We and I say WE because I’m guilty of this too. We get so caught up with taking advice from the “experts” on social media to the point where we are no longer taking our own advice. We ignore what God has told us to do because we don’t think it’s good enough and we already possess the qualities needed to be successful. We must take a break from social media and sit still while listening to God and focusing on the highest version of ourselves. We have to start writing down our visions (Habakkuk 2:1) and get to a place where we use social media as a resource and not the main focal point of our lives.

Besides, everything looks so glamorized on social media and that’s one of the main distractions from reality. Just about everyone looks as if they’ve “made it.” Every relationship looks to be “goals.” No one has failed at anything in life and everyone’s “getting money.” I am here to remind you that that’s not the entire truth. Instagram and other social media sites are apps filled with filtered photos as well as thought out videos and if you’re not careful, you can get caught up in the comparison game.

However, don’t let that be the reason why you don’t start your business in an “oversaturated market.” Don’t allow that to be the reason why you don’t talk about your struggles. People who follow you need to feel inspired by the things you’ve had to overcome to get to where you are today. I feel that we get so caught up on the destination that we don’t enjoy the journey because we’re so busy comparing our chapter 2 to someone’s chapter 22. So starting today, let’s start our mornings off with gratitude and meditation, praying throughout our day and taking baby steps towards OUR dreams. It all starts with you!

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You Are a Woman, That’s Your POWER!

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On today I was talking with my old roommate from LA and she told me that recent blog post came across her Facebook suggestions as one of the things she should read. Immediately, she noticed it was my blog and decided to read the post. She texted me before our phone chat and said “Hey Paris I just read your new blog post. First of all I wanted to tell you that you write very beautifully. Very eloquent, and sincere. I didn’t know that you had that talent.” Just the thought of her taking the time to read my post made my heart smile but for her to thoroughly enjoy my post made me extremely happy!!! 

Today, I was talking with my old roommate from L.A. and she told me that my recent blog post came across her Facebook suggestions as one of the things she should read. Immediately, she noticed it was my blog and decided to read the post. She texted me before our phone call and said, “Hey Paris I just read your new blog post. First of all, I wanted to tell you that you write very beautifully. Very eloquent, and sincere. I didn’t know that you had that talent.” Just the thought of her taking the time to read my post made my heart smile but for her to thoroughly enjoy my post made me extremely happy!!!

Reason being is I get “signs” every day that I should post more of my art and with me trying to become more consistent with blogging, I took this as another sign such as: if you don’t put it out there who knows you have the talent. If you don’t speak about what you have going on, how could anyone support you? If you don’t pursue what makes your heart smile how would you ever know where your purpose lie?

While catching up with her, I thanked her again for sending me the beautiful text and taking the time out to read my post. She again told me how beautiful my writing is and I replied “Thank You” kind of like no big deal, she immediately caught my tone and asked did I not think it was good? I replied, “yes, but I don’t look at myself as an author or anything.” Immediately, I stopped in my tracks and asked her, “Why do we do that?” Why as women do we downplay our accomplishments?” We both paused for a second and she said something along the lines of us not thinking what we do is enough. Then she proceeded to say that her entire family made a huge deal over her male cousin graduating from high school (this is in NO WAY DOWNPLAYING GRADUATING FOR HIGH SCHOOL) but she stated there were no congrats in order for her when she was accepted into this really elite research program this past summer. She also stated that they didn’t say much when she graduated early from high school. We both wondered what’s up with that then had to take a look at ourselves and see if we’re treating our own accomplishments as no big deal.

To be honest, I know I do at times…Heck! I just did it on the phone today with her when she complimented my writing and I said the silly statement of me not being an author! WHAT IN THE WORLD am I feeding my subconscious mind? So before getting off the phone, I told her that this entire conversation just sparked a new blog post (you know with me trying to be consistent and all, LOL) and it will flow with the pictures I just took the day before. 

Here I am wearing a t-shirt from Happy Yourself that reads the different hats I wear.  This t-shirt has an image of an African American Woman in which I am proud to be however, I am speaking to all women when I say we all wear different hats such as a teacher, activist, sister, mentor, companion, mother, friend peacekeeper, entertainer, visionary & leader. And we don’t give ourselves enough credit for being all those things sometimes all in one day! So, I had to take a look at the woman in the mirror and think about her accomplishments past and present and I just had to give myself a pat on the back for being relentless when it comes to accomplishing my goals.

I thought about when I was opening Classy Closet and how I worked 3 jobs so I wouldn’t have to take out any loans for my business. I thought about when I wanted to experience life in another state so I applied for Grad school in Mankato, MN., got accepted without having to take the GRE because I had an A average in college, packed up my entire life in my car and drove cross-country with my family just to go after what I wanted. I thought about when I decided I wanted to become SGA Vice President in my junior/senior year in undergrad and how my tribe and I campaigned for an entire week and I won! I thought about how nervous I was before giving my speech about why I am the best candidate for the position and while up there, snippets from Barak Obama’s speech started flowing out of my mouth about wanting to see change and yes we can (this wasn’t planned) and afterwards, I received a standing ovation and won by a landslide as the Student Government Association Vice President 2008-2009. I thought about how I quit my job in college to focus on school and when people would ask me what I would do about my car note and insurance I said I’m trusting in God because right now my grades aren’t what I know they should be and I just need to focus on school & not this job. That was in August 2007 and in December 2007 I walked into JP Morgan Chase and told them I’m giving myself an early birthday and Christmas present so draft the reminding balance of the car loan out of my account right now, which was $10,000. If I wouldn’t have trusted my gut, I would’ve continued being a slave to a dollar and a D student.  I thought about how I decided I wanted to go back and get my Masters, applied, was accepted, worked, ran Classy Closet from my apartment, blogged and had a social life.  I thought about how I wanted to put Classy Closet’s clothes in small boutiques instead of just online and a few days after speaking it into existence,  I received an email from a start-up boutique on Southern University’s campus asking me could I come in and give a presentation on my clothes. I remember seeing people walk around campus looking fabulous wearing Classy Closet merchandise. I remember I was the top seller in the store and every Monday I was picking up a check from everything that was sold the week prior. I remember thinking this is a good life for a grad student I want to put Classy Closet in more boutiques and then received a text from a purse boutique in New Orleans who wanted to diversify their inventory and asked would I like to put Classy Closet’s merchandise in their store. I remember receiving a check from this boutique every Friday. This is how I put myself through Grad school. I quit my job and just focused on school and business.  I thought about 6 years ago how my dream of moving to LA flopped but then I tried again, lived there for an entire year and 5 months as a full-time entrepreneur. These are only a few things I’ve accomplished by the grace of God BUT, what I want you to take away from this is, we should stop downplaying what season we are in & what we’ve accomplished because at one time if you’re really honest with yourself, you are exactly where you’ve always wanted to be AND if you’re not, you have the power to change your situation. Move! Do SOMETHING about it girl, you’re not a tree! You’re a woman & that within itself is POWER!!!!!

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Why I Took A Social Media Break + How To Style a .74 Cent Blouse.

Lately, I’ve been focusing a lot on personal growth along with getting accumulated to being back in NOLA. While on this personal growth journey, this is what I’ve been up to:

Lately, I’ve been focusing a lot on personal growth along with getting accustomed to being back in NOLA. While on this personal growth journey, this is what I’ve been up to:

Just curious, is it me or do you all realize it’s a lot of information/distractions out there? I mean I love all the info such as what to do & the how to’s etc., but lately, I find myself pulling back and just doing me. I had to unsubscribe from a few emails because I felt myself going into information overload. I deleted the Periscope app from my phone because I was getting way too many alerts and each time one of my favorites would get on I would join in too. However, I was getting off track with my goals and deadlines I had set for that particular day. I noticed I was wasting a lot of time on social media mainly Instagram and although it’s how I grow my business, personally I just needed a break. I needed a break from waking up checking my Instagram, throughout the day, checking my Instagram & before bed, checking my Instagram. I just had to tell myself that it’s not that serious. I needed to focus on my next move, transitioning into a new season and just living in the moment. Now, I’m waking up and centering my thoughts, thinking about how I can grow my brand, who can I help in business & what I can do today that my future self would be proud of instead of overwhelming myself with tips and advice from the “experts.”  

Sometimes, pulling away from social media could be a good thing especially since we all know it’s not going anywhere.  I made a list of a few things I would like to focus on more. One is this blog; I started blogging about 6 years ago and to me, I feel as if I should be further than I am. While on this Instagram break, I realized what’s the main problem and that is: I am not consistent with posting blog posts as I am on social media. I had this blog before Instagram was created and I had to ask myself, why are you neglecting your first love? There’s no excuse at all. NONE would be good enough! All I could do is learn from the past and work on becoming better. I have everything I need to grow my brand, my blog and my social media presence I just need to take it seriously and do the work. Taking this time away from Instagram made me take a hard look at myself, my brand, my business, and my goals and although I’m not where I want to be, I am definitely on my way.

Now on to what I’m wearing because let’s be real here, this is what you came here for! So without further ado, here it is:

   I am wearing a leopard vintage top that I scored at a local thrift store for 75% off $2.95 so I paid a sweet .74 cents. Talk about a happy shopper!! This is one of those tops where you can remix it and dress it up or down.  You’ll definitely see this one in rotation on the blog. I paired it with a tan pencil skirt purchased from F-21 & I believe it was about $20. I completed my look with gold accessories: a gold choker, rings, watch/bracelets, clutch, and minimalist sandals. And of course, no look is ever complete without hair and makeup. A few days ago I got my hair braided and I must say, this is one of my favorite hairstyles. I’ve received more compliments on this style more than any other braids I’ve worn. The thing I love most about this style is the fact that it’s a cool hairstyle for these hot summer days. I don’t have to worry about lots of hair down my back and it’s off my face. I love a hairstyle that shows more of my face. This is one of my top 5 braiding styles. On my lips, I’m wearing a matte red lipstick purchased from a local beauty store.

I wore this look to church but it’s also a great style to wear to a fancy brunch.

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Style Snapshot: Leopard Vintage Blouse- Family Thrift Store. Sunnies-A’gaci. Tan Pencil Skirt & Rings-F-21. Clutch- Bakers Shoes. Choker- Boutique in LA. Minimalist Gold Sandals- Shoe Nami.

HotMommaHaute- Networking Event & Panel Discussion.

Speaking on a panel is something I’ve always wanted to do. I created a vision board with a panel discussion image less than a year ago and now, I’ve been blessed with the opportunity to so on this Friday, Aug. 1st. This is ONLY the beginning and I’m so grateful for the opportunity to do what I love.

Hope to see you there! You can buy your tickets here

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Grab your girlfriends and join us for a hot evening experience for fashion lovers, fashionistas and style and beauty connoisseurs in the metropolitan area!
Ready to connect with beauty and fashion bloggers such as Paris Hatcher, fashion blogger of Where Sexy Meets Classy, Leslie Presnall, Fashion Blogger and Stylist, The Southern Flair blog, Takisha Sanders and Alaina Fingal, creators and owners of the Baggage Boutique, moderator Fresh Johnson, Radio Personality, Fresh Radio on 102.9, hosted by Monica Byrd, Creator of HotMommaHaute Experience, Fashionista Flea Market, HotMommaHaute Box, Bump in the City, Baby Bash and Bling Expo & Show
  • Eager to meet other fashionistas
  • The chance to engage with featured experts – from style experts to beauty insiders
  • Participate in an entertaining and thought-provoking panel discussion
  • Shop within our HotMommaHaute marketplace of beauty, style and fashion brands featuring Baggage Boutique!
  • Live tweet about the ‘experience’ for a chance to be featured in the HotMommaHaute campaign.
Please note only a few FREE tickets remain – after those tickets are gone its $10.00/per person!  Tickets.
Friday, August 1, 2014
6-9:00pm
700 Tchoupitoulas Street
New Orleans, Louisiana 70130

{Video} What to Wear to Essence Festival

Sorry for the lack of post, lately! I’ve been a busy woman trying to accomplish my dreams one day at a time 😉 But never the less, I’m back & speaking of accomplishing dreams, I was blessed with the opportunity to film my very first fashion segment on WGNO ABC 26 “News With A Twist.” The segment was about “What to Wear to Essence Festival.” This was a dream come true because actually, it’s a dream job of mines. I have a Master’s Degree in Mass Communication with a concentration in Broadcast Journalism and of course I love to talk about fashion, beauty & style & over the years I’ve decided to spread my love around by starting this fashion blog, my online women’s boutique, Classy Closet, fashion writer for NOLA Nights Magazine and my fashion radio talk show Style & Beauty Talk With Paris. Therefore, earning the opportunity to put my graduate school skills to use and speaking about fashion was one of the many highlights I’ve had this year. It’s a humbling feeling when you start to see the fruits of your labor paying off. However, I do have ways to go and more networks to appear on so this is only the beginning of many more dreams coming true.

 

I apologize for the video quality. If you’d like to watch a clear vision please feel free to click here.

Fashion Writer For Nola Nights Magazine

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Look who’s the new fashion writer for Nola Nights Magazine!! I am so grateful for this wonderful opportunity. Becoming a fashion writer for a magazine has always been a dream of mines; it’s one of the main reasons why I started this fashion blog. I’m trying to capture all forms of media. I have my radio show, “Style & Beauty Talk With Paris” I’m a fashion writer for Nola Nights Magazine and soon you’ll see me on TV doing fashion segments (I’m speaking it into existence) what me work!!!!! 😉

Bridge House/Grace House Fashion Show …Why You Should Never Give Up.

Hi Sexy Meets Classy Readers,

Do you all remember the Bridge House/Grace House Fashion Show I was apart of in February? Well, if you missed it, you can check out the entire post here.

While strolling on Twitter my friend, Chet Pourciau congratulated me on my outfit feature in Bridge House/Grace House monthly magazine. I was ecstatic because out of 38 designers and design teams that participated, the awesome staff at Bridge House/Grace House decided to use my design for their monthly magazine.

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Another reason I was excited was that a few hours before the show started one of my models canceled. Okay, no big deal I’ll try contacting someone else and then literally moments before the show started while I was checking into the show the second model canceled so imagine how sad I was feeling because I put so much into this one night. I felt my eyes getting watery because I didn’t know where I could find another model who could fit the clothes. I took a deep breath and checked myself into the show anyway (my plan was to just model my designs myself) but the sweet lady who checked me in asked was I okay (she must’ve seen the disappointment on my face) I told her, “No, but I will be.” she asked what was the problem, I told her and she suggested a young lady wearing red shoes would be perfect for me. She pointed her out and I immediately ran up to her asking “Can you please model these designs for me? My other two models canceled.” She immediately said “Sure” she was only there to support her mom who was a designer as well. So she tried on the clothes and they were a perfect fit! BAM!!!! I’m excited again!!!

And then this happened!!! There’s power in NEVER giving up!! I’m destined for this.  I prayed for this so I’m made for this!!

#KeepPushing

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